Feeling Trapped by Your Thoughts & Decisions? Cuz Same.

Anxiously HUMAN

Destructive Thoughts=Patterns=Repeated Poor Decisions.

Is the voice inside you screaming? Are your insides all twisted up? Do you see your patterns of behavior but feel like you’re on a fucking autopilot emotional suicide mission?

I know. It feels like you’re losing control. Like your own mind and behavior are betraying your soul. The first step is asking the right questions…

What is causing this self-destructive thought pattern?

Well, your lack of love and respect for yourself, for starters. Human beings do this really annoying thing: we base our self-worth on how others treat us. Ughhhhh. Super bad idea right?

This means that people from your childhood (parents, kids at school, a mean sibling) or adulthood (an ex, a shitty friend, a bad boss) could possibly affect the way we feel about ourselves FOR THE REST OF OUR LIVES. That sounds absolutely horrifying, so here’s how to avoid it.

*Take every bad memory, everytime someone hurt you, bullied you, used you, lied to you, or abused you and collect them all in a bunch. Now say out loud:

“Everything they said or did to me came from inside THEM, and how they feel about THEMSELVES.”

Now say it again. And again. And again. Until you reprogram your brain to recognize the truth. Your insecurities and lack of self-love has caused your subconscious to tell you a false narrative for a longgggg time. So let’s set it right, and see how much it helps.

The next question…

Why am I making decisions from a place of insecurity, fear or doubt?

Because that damaged self-worth of yours was whispering fear and self-doubt into you in moments of decision-making. We’re working on that per the above exercise, so now what?

We have to re-train ourselves to make decisions based on our values and our true feelings. IT’S NOT GOING TO BE EASY. You’ve literally been living to please other people and holding onto things that are not good for you simply because you didn’t love yourself.

So this is my solution for making new choices…that your actual soul is inline with. You have to get in touch with your inner GUT feeling, that inner voice that when we don’t love ourselves…we ignore.

You must start talking to yourself *as if* you were talking to your best friend. You know all that amazing advice you give to the friend you love most? Give it to yourself, in the mirror:

“I want what is best for you, what is in the best interest of your health and your heart. I want you to have peace and security in all your relationships and friendships. I want that for you because I love you, I respect you, and I trust you will make the right decisions for you.”

I want you to say those words to yourself a few times, if you can. It’s ok if you get emotional, this is probably the first time you’ve spoken this gently and loving to yourself. Wrap your arms around yourself and make yourself that promise.

Being your own best friend will be different, and you will start noticing a sense of comfort with each new decision you make that makes you happy and is inline with what you truly want.

What if I mess up and go back to my old patterns?

You will have a slip up from time to time. You are HUMAN. But if you remind yourself how far you’ve come and how strong you’ve gotten from doing whats right FOR YOU… you’ll get back on track quickly.

Another thing to remember is the painful place you were in before. You don’t want to go back there, there is nothing new for you there. You are stronger and in control of the insecure, self-doubting lies that try to drag you back. You know it is bullshit that was thrown at you by someone from your past.

“It is not mine to carry.”

Whatever negative or painful treatment was bestowed upon you is that person’s demons, so let them handle it. You love yourself and you are your OWN best friend now right? Right.

If you embrace this and believe what I’m saying (it is the truth), then the next time anyone comes into your life and space with ill-intentions or disrespect… you’ll deflect. You simply will not tolerate it, because you’ve been treating yourself so well. You have raised the standard- and if they don’t meet it, their loss.

I hope this has resonated with you if you have been struggling. You really do deserve peace and freedom from self-destructive thoughts and behavior. We all do.

As usual, I appreciate your time and attention! Remember I am always here to listen and provide any knowledge or support I can. Now go love yourself and be free.

xo…G