How to Crawl Out of a Dark Place

Anxiously HUMAN

An important thing to remember: You’re NOT alone.

Life is not easy. Not for anyone. Even those people who seem to “have it all”, don’t. Even if someone grows up with a silver spoon in their mouth, they may be dealing with some dark emotional shit. Even if someone has loving supportive parents, they may not feel good enough.

People are born with all kinds of shortcomings: health issues, emotional issues, financial issues, family issues, safety issues. No one is given a perfect life, because what the fuck would we learn from that?

Imagine this: a test with all the answers given to you. Would you learn anything? Of course not. Although we are given free will, that doesn’t mean God or the Universe or whatever you believe in won’t test us and place challenges in our way.

NewsFlash- That’s how evolution happens.

Whether you believe in the Big Bang or God or whatever, you must admit we have to grow and evolve. This happens by making you uncomfortable and challenging you. Growth is not supposed to be comfortable.

What if every time you were challenged or going through a rough time, someone just rescued you? You wouldn’t learn shit. You would be a weak coddled human being. Ever met someone whose parents did this? They’re totally out of touch with reality and can’t interact normally or problem solve. They’re HANDICAPPED.

The next time you are struggling badly, thinking of giving up… try asking this one thing:

~What can I learn from this? What is this trying to teach me?

You may not always like the answer, but it’s there. Deep down you know the answer. If you can answer it honestly and take the EMOTION out of it, you instantly feel better. Stronger. You can begin to feel a bit in control. What is the next step? Ask:

~What is one thing I can do right now to help myself?

YOU ARE NOT HELPLESS. That is not an opinion, it’s a fact. No one is helpless, but they let their doubts and fears trick them into thinking they are. They let their insecurities lie to them until they start to believe these self-limiting beliefs that they are “stuck”.

It’s a lie. I promise you it’s a lie.

You are capable of SO MUCH that it would shock you to really know all you’re capable of. But when you’re in that dark place, that voice starts creeping in and lying to you. You begin to spiral down and forget who you are and what wonderful things you have to offer the world and offer yourself.

The last thing you should ask yourself is this:

~Who can I trust? Who do I know that will help me fight my way out of this place?

I guarantee as you read that, someone’s name popped into your head. It’s not going to be your “nicest”friend. It’s not going to be the one who tells you to just “be positive” and everything will be ok. Nope.

It will be your tough, honest, rough around the edges friend or family member.

They’re going to push you, they’re not going to put up with your BS excuses, and they certainly aren’t going to coddle you. They’re going to give you solutions. They’re going to redirect you when you start to go down again. They’re going to tell you the truth even when it hurts.

Why?

Because they know feeding your comfort zone and weakness will wreck you eventually. It will temporarily take away the pain, but later you will crash harder, so they don’t do it. They fight alongside you and kick your ass when you need it.

The good news about being in a bad place is SO MANY OF US have been there. And look how many survived!! You can do this but you need a general game plan, so I hope I provided that for you. Here’s another great resource in audio version to get your groove back, so to speak… here.

As per usual, I appreciate your time and attention. If you read this and think it can help someone, I would love for you to share. Please feel free to leave comments or get in touch with me via email: gabby@anxiouslyhuman.com or on IG @gabby_fox_

xo…G